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Assalamualaikum
I got a problem wirh my wife and she provoked me to say 3 talaq and said 3 talaat in one go but in an insane anger without releasing what I was saying, but I did some research in Fiqr Book and with some imaam and mufti.. at the end
I did not get any verdict either my nikkah is still valid or not, soem says 3 in one go is 1 ansld some says 3 is 3 and also some told me if I was that insane angry without realising what I said, talaq does not count at all, thats why im still confuse and do not know what to do" and I did some more reseaech and found this....
" If you uttered the words of divorce at a moment of intense anger and without realizing it, and you could not control yourself, because of her bad words and insults etc., and you did that at a moment of intense anger and without realizing it, and she acknowledges that, or you have a witness of good character, then divorce has not taken place, because the shar’i evidence indicates that divorce does not take place if the words are spoken at a moment of intense anger – and if it is accompanied by not realizing what is happening then the ruling applies even more so. "
Anger may be of three types:
1 – When a person is angry and is no longer aware of what he is doing. This is likened to the insane, so divorce does not take place according to all scholars.
2 – Where a person is very angry but is still aware of what is going on, but his anger is so intense that it makes him say the words of divorce. In this case too, divorce does not take place according to the correct scholarly opinion.
3 – The ordinary type of anger which is not very intense. In this case, divorce takes place, according to all the scholars.
From Fataawa al-Talaaq, pp. 19-21, compiled by Dr. ‘Abd-Allaah al-Tayyaar and Muhammad al-Moosa.
the type of anger i was in was the 1st type.
I even asked the imaam who did my nikkah, he told me to get in contact with his mufti, I called him and explained everything to him and he said he can not say anything about it, only me know the truth of how anger I was
. and also said if I want him to give a fatwa and verdict..I need.to consult a psycologue to get a report either my anger was intence or not.
and the problem is that, the incident happened last year, and aster realisin what happened, we looked and saw that 3 talaq in one go count one in a hadith..so we thought we are still married..but recently 4-5 months ago, her parents got to know about the incident and interfered..that is when we went looking for different mufti and imaam..
and end up with the mufti who told me to look for a PSY but
consulting a psycologue wont help much because how I was last year and today..is different, but still I booked an appointment with a psycologue on next thursday.
I went to MFC today and explained them, then they referred me here.
I am just really confused and really afraid that my nikkah is invalid,
but Allah know the
best
and I hope to get an answer from you soon In Cha Allah
assalamualaikum
Answer
Talaaq uttered in a state of anger is effective.
3 Talaaq given in one go is considered as 3. Talaaq of an insane is null and void. Choose yourself which of these 3 cases apply to you.