Marriage

Describing a woman to a stranger

"A woman must not associate with another woman in such a way that the woman describes her to her husband in a way as if he is seeing her." (Bukhari)

This applies to those who like to narrate and listen. But it is allowed to give some details to someone who is interested to send a marriage proposal. Here also one must take precaution because people are too dishonest. They can use the pretext of marriage merely to satisfy their desire.

Romancing

Romancing is purely Zina but one does not care. In one's presence, someone comes in one's home and he romances with one's daughter!!! There is no doubt that it is Zina.

Sowing dissension in a marriage

People get married for life. Marriage is not a joke. Yes, when it is difficult to continue to live in harmony, then it can also be ended beautifully. But, basically, marriage is a union that must be preserved as much as possible. Sometimes there is no problem between the husband and the wife. It is just a third party who wants to wreak havoc. This is very serious. Nabi (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: "The person who incites a woman against her husband is not among us."

A secret

A secret remains a secret as long as no one knows it besides oneself. As soon as a second person knows it, it does not remain a secret anymore. It is already publicised even if it becomes known by only one individual of the public. Now one must not expect that this will remain a secret between the two. The friend with whom one has shared one's secret will have another intimate friend with whom he will share that secret and so on. A level will be reached where everyone will know it but it will be believed that it is still a secret.

Simplicity in marriage

Hazrat Abdour Rahmaan Bin Auf (Radiyallahu Anhu) had married but he had not even informed Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam). It was only afterwards that Nabi (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam) came to know. Similarly, Hazrat Jabir Bin Abdullah (Radiyallahu Anhu) had married and he did not invite Nabi (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam). On his side, Nabi (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam) also was not angry.

Execute our duty before claiming our right

"If I had to command anyone to prostrate before anyone (besides Allah Ta'ala), I would have commanded a woman to prostrate before her husband." (Tirmizi)

Explanation:

It is not called Gheebah

Gheebah means saying negative words about a person behind his back (in his absence) and revealing his bad manners in front of people with the intention of denigrating him. This is not permissible. But, if by concealing his shortcomings, we see that it will harm others, then in this case, it is our responsibility to reveal his shortcoming. And this form of revealing his shortcoming is not called Gheebah.

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